More Doctors

In my first entry, I briefly talked about how I was also seeing a fertility specialist.  After adopting our first son, we decided to see a different doctor.  She was highly recommended in the area and I wanted to see someone who might be able to find something that the other specialist had not seen.  So, I started my testing over.  I had another hysterosalpingogram, which was not nearly as bad.  She also recommended that I have an exploratory surgery.  I had a surgery which found that I had a little bit of endometriosis.  The doctor was able to remove what she had seen as well as get a “kink” out of my fallopian tube.  I was excited to finally have a bit of an explanation.  She told me to “call her in the next 6 months” because she was sure I would be pregnant.  I was ecstatic!  

With each month I became more discouraged.  Thank goodness I had my son to help me through these sad times, but it was still filled with frustration.  After 6 months, I went back to see her and she suggested that I do in vitro.  In all of the testing, we found that ovulating was definitely not the problem, so I wasn’t sure why in vitro was “the answer.”  It didn’t make sense.  However, I wasn’t necessarily thinking clearly either.  This was so difficult.  I had someone telling me that I would have biological children by doing in vitro, even though there were clearly different issues that caused me not to get pregnant.  And, it was a lot of money with no guarantees.  Adoption, however, I knew was perfect for us, and we could put the money towards another adoption.  I also talked with our priest about in vitro and why the Catholic Church did not support in vitro.  It wasn’t until I emailed Cardinal Dolan (at the time, Archbishop Dolan) that I got an answer that satisfied me.  It was such a beautiful explanation, rather than a condemnation.  

It was a hard decision, but we decided that we would not do in vitro.  We would, however, find a doctor who could give us some answers.  We found that doctor in Omaha.